“Why does it feel like nothing is moving for me?”
I remember asking this one evening — not out loud, not dramatically — just inside my head.
I wasn’t angry. I wasn’t hopeless.
Just… tired.
I had done everything people suggest.
Stayed positive. Tried to trust. Told myself, “Just raise your vibration.”
And yet, the same patterns kept repeating.
That’s when a thought made me uncomfortable in the most honest way:
Maybe the universe isn’t ignoring us.
Maybe it’s responding to what we’re actually living in — not what we’re trying to project.
We’ve Made “Vibration” Sound Way Too Complicated
Online, vibration sounds like a performance.
Be positive.
Think good thoughts.
Don’t feel sad — or you’ll attract more sadness.
But real life doesn’t work like that.
Because let’s be honest —
you can smile, journal, affirm, even meditate…
and still feel tense inside.
And that tension has a vibration.
Vibration isn’t what you say you feel.
It’s what your system is settled into.
A Simple Way to Understand It
Think of vibration as your default inner setting.
Not how you feel on a good day.
Not how you feel when you’re motivated.
But how you generally move through life.
Are you:
- slightly braced?
- always preparing for things to go wrong?
- waiting for the other shoe to drop?
That inner posture is what the universe responds to.
Relationship Example (This One Is Subtle)
You might say you want a healthy relationship.
But inside, you’re:
- cautious
- expecting disappointment
- emotionally holding back “just in case”
So you show up guarded.
Not closed — but not open either.
The universe doesn’t hear “I want love.”
It feels “I’m protecting myself.”
And what does it send back?
Situations that require you to protect yourself.
Not as punishment.
Just as a mirror.
Career Example (Very Common)
You say you want growth, recognition, better opportunities.
But internally, you’re constantly thinking:
- “I have to prove myself”
- “Nothing comes easily”
- “I need to be prepared for rejection”
So you’re always pushing, overthinking, staying alert.
Your vibration becomes effort-before-ease.
And the universe responds by giving you…
more effort.
Not because it’s cruel.
But because that’s the state you’re operating from.
Health Example (Often Ignored)
This one surprised me personally.
You want better health, more energy.
But internally, your body is:
- exhausted
- stressed
- constantly being corrected or pushed
Even self-care is done with pressure.
Your system doesn’t feel safe — it feels managed.
So instead of responding with vitality,
the body stays in survival mode.
The universe doesn’t respond to your health goals.
It responds to your relationship with your body.
Here’s the Part That Changed Everything for Me
I realised something uncomfortable:
I wasn’t “open” to good things.
I was prepared.
Prepared to adjust.
Prepared to cope.
Prepared to handle disappointment.
That preparedness has a vibration.
And the universe kept matching it —
by giving me things that required coping.
Not because I deserved struggle.
But because my nervous system expected it.
This Is Why Forcing Positivity Never Works
You can’t fake safety.
Your nervous system always tells the truth.
And the universe seems to listen more to that
than to your words or vision boards.
When your system is constantly on alert,
your vibration says: “It’s not safe yet.”
And the universe doesn’t rush safety.
It mirrors readiness.
What People Call “Surrender” Is Actually This
Surrender isn’t giving up.
It’s when you stop gripping life internally.
When you stop:
- bracing
- forcing outcomes
- mentally rehearsing disappointment
Your body softens.
Your expectations soften.
And that shift — quietly — changes everything.
The Universe Responds to Coherence, Not Control
When your thoughts, emotions, and expectations start pointing in the same direction —
not perfectly, just honestly —
things begin to move.
Not suddenly.
Not dramatically.
But steadily.
And usually in ways that feel surprisingly natural.
The Simplest Truth I’ve Learned
The universe isn’t testing us.
It isn’t teaching lessons.
It isn’t watching to see if we’re positive enough.
It’s reflecting our inner orientation to life.
And that orientation doesn’t change by trying harder.
It changes when we understand ourselves more deeply.
If You Feel Stuck Right Now
It doesn’t mean your vibration is low.
It doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong.
It might just mean your system is still protecting you
the only way it knows how.
And protection always comes before expansion.
When you understand that,
you stop chasing alignment —
and start living into it.
A Question Worth Sitting With
Not: “What do I want the universe to give me?”
But quietly ask yourself:
“What am I expecting life to be like most of the time?”
That answer explains far more than we realise.
